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20 Signs & Symbols to Identify if Someone is a Real Swinger


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Estimates suggest that only 4% of the population identifies as swingers, but it's still possible to know someone in this community without realising it. Despite their desire for privacy, one can identify swingers by paying close attention to their actions and surroundings - swinger code signs if you will.

Rumours of swinger symbols to signal their involvement in the lifestyle are often disputed, but they can still be used as a tool to find local swingers and connect with others in the community. Some swingers use subtle signals, such as decorative lawn ornaments or plants, to attract other members of the community, but these are not so obvious as to expose their identity to others.

While it may not be a clear-cut way to determine if someone is a swinger, subtle hints and “swinger signs” can still be picked up on. So, rumor or not, let’s take a deep dive into these supposed signs of a swinger.


20 Signs & Symbols to Identify if Someone is a Real Swinger

They are fond of pineapple decor and prints


When it comes to swinger signs, the pineapple is probably one of the most widely known. Word on the street is that if a pineapple is outside someone’s house it’s an invitation to a swinger’s party, and if someone has an upside-down pineapple it is a sign they are finding local swingers on swinger sites.

They wear anklets and toe rings


Now on to jewellery. It’s said that a woman who wears toe rings and/or anklets is signifying that she is open to some extra-curricular swinging activities. This is one of the so-called swinger symbols that is a little obscure, as there are lots of people out there who wear all sorts of jewellery.

They own a hot tub


This is one of the swinger symbols on the list that should probably be considered in conjunction with other symbols, for obvious reasons. Plenty of people have hot tubs in their yards, so be sure not to jump the gun.

They wear a black ring on their right hand


The second of the jewellery-based swinger code signs. It’s said that men or women who adorn their fingers with black rings are part of the swinging community.

They have a collection of lawn decorations

It’s heavily rumoured that lawn decorations including humble garden gnomes can be considered to be signs of a swinger. As with the hot tub, it’s probably best to exercise caution with any assumptions, to avoid any awkward encounters.


They wear black rings

Another jewellery entry on our list of swinger signs is wearing a black ring on their finger. Swingers should avoid using the middle finger, as a black finger on this hand has already been designated to the asexual community.


They have matching Yin and Yang tattoos


It is said that one of the swinger code signs attributed to swinging couples is the presence of matching yin and yang tattoos on display.


They display the swing symbol on clothing, jewellery, etc.

One of the more prominent swinger symbols is, well, an actual symbol. An obscure and very abstract emblem that shows a red circle with a black swing shape inside it. It is subtle enough to be discreet when needed, but still bold and unique enough to be recognised by your target audience.


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They frequently wear a red baseball cap


Now, again, this one really should be acknowledged only in conjunction with other swinger signs, because red baseball caps are pretty common. But, this has been recognised as one of the many signs of a swinger, so it’s earned its place on the list.


They use particular emojis


🍍 As previously mentioned, a pineapple is a common swinger symbol, so the use of the pineapple emoji basically lets people know you’re part of the lifestyle.

🦄 A unicorn emoji is a sign that you’re a single bi female looking to find local swingers or a couple to have fun with.


🐂 If you use a bull emoji, it can be seen as a swinger sign and can let people know that you’re a single straight male looking to play with couples.

🐉 The use of a dragon emoji lets people know that you’re a single bi male whose aim is to find local swingers (couples) to hookup with

⛓️ When swingers use the chain emoji, it is used to signify a kink.


They have pampas grass in their front garden

The idea that swingers use pampas grass in their front yard as a sign to the world of their lifestyle should be definitely considered along with a number of other swinger symbols. This alone probably isn’t enough to knock on someone’s door and assume they’re looking to fool around with other couples.


They have a fire pit in their yard

Again, we wouldn’t class the presence of a firepit in someone’s garden as a surefire sign they are looking to swing, but it is rumoured to be a swinger symbol, so we’ve included it on our list.


They wear wristbands

At certain swinger events, they will wear different coloured wristbands to identify particular interests or preferences. In addition, swingers will often have a silicone wristband with the swinger symbol mentioned above to identify themselves to the community.

They will encourage and never shy away from open, sexual conversations


Of course, some people are just naturally more open than others, so this item should be taken with caution. However, if you’re in the presence of swingers, you’ll probably notice they have very few boundaries when it comes to open conversations around sex.

They are very big on body language


Similarly to the point above, they are very open with body language and use it to convey their interest, attraction, comfort, and pleasure whilst engaging in the swinging community without saying a word. This is conveyed through things like posture and eye contact.


They take any opportunity to casually touch others in conversation

If you’re around swingers, you’ll probably notice they are very touchy-feely and love to make contact with you whilst talking. Even if it’s a casual conversation, they’ll probably be touching your arm, etc.


They are very candid and open in general


One of the signs of a swinger is that they are just naturally very open and candid people. They don’t get embarrassed easily and will welcome new opportunities.


They exude a cool confidence


Most swingers are very natural, cool, and confident people. Part of that probably comes from their experience in being open and vulnerable with new people. They are comfortable within their own skin.

They are playful both inside and outside of the bedroom

Another sign of a swinger is their playful nature. They will be engaging in banter, making you laugh, and getting cheeky and flirty on a regular basis.


They seem to always gravitate towards other couples

Signs of a swinger come in all forms, but one of the more subtle ones is that swinging couples will always gravitate towards other couples, particularly those they are attracted to.


An education on swinger signs and symbols


Well, there you have it. We hope we’ve opened your eyes to some of the more and less commonly known signs of a swinger. Now, if it’s a lifestyle you want in on, maybe it’s time to go and find local swingers to get to know.

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